This week, I had a session with a client that cracked something wide open for me—and I knew I had to bring it here.
She’s someone who, from the outside, looks like she has it all together. Always smiling. Always helping others. Always saying she’s “fine.”
But under the surface? She was drowning in disconnection. From herself. From her desires. From her voice.
When her husband would speak to her in ways that felt dismissive or hurtful, she’d shrink. Stay quiet. Tell herself it wasn’t a big deal.
And what she said to me hit hard:
“I don’t want to feel scared anymore. But I’ve gotten really good at holding it in.”
What struck me most about this was:
→ We cannot numb pain selectively—when we suppress frustration, we also suppress joy.
→ Silence isn’t peace. It’s a placeholder.
→ You don’t get the relationship you wish for by tolerating the one that drains you—
You get it by getting radically honest with yourself.
And it got me thinking about you.
Especially if you've ever told yourself, “It’s not that bad,” or “Someday I'll meet my person” or “This is temporary.”
You deserve more than just a “fine” life. You deserve fulfillment. Intimacy. Aliveness.
But that shift doesn’t start with someone else.
It starts with you.
Here's my invitation to you this week:
✅ Step 1: Write down the version of your relationship—or your life—you actually want. Get specific.
✅ Step 2: Notice where you've been avoiding truth, staying silent, or minimizing your needs.
✅ Step 3: Choose one small moment this week to honor your truth. Speak it. Ask for what you want. Say the thing you’ve been afraid to say—with love and clarity.
✨Because remember: your truth isn’t too much—it’s the medicine you’ve been waiting for.✨
I’m so grateful to walk this journey with you.
With love,
Deanna
